Taylor the Teacher

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Our relationship with him, and the choice it presents to us, is all there is. And we find it hard to keep it together with him in the presence of someone else because deep down, we don’t believe he’s real. So he steps in and uses the “existential weight” of others to impress on us the even greater reality of himself.

It was Mike Mason that made me realize this (and whom I was quoting when I used the term “existential weight” before.) His book, “The Mystery of Marriage” is so full of good stuff to think about that it’s honestly hard to settle on a quote here. So, this one will have to do for now. But read Mike Mason’s book.

“The loved one is simply “there,” in a way that no other living thing in the world except oneself has ever really been “there” before. Even parents do not intrude and impinge upon one’s adult life the way a spouse does, and it can be rather a surprise to discover that one is, after all, not alone. At night, in the morning, naked, over meals, in bath, and in bed, the partner is always there, there in body or there in spirit, there at the back of the mind and there in the pit of the heart…”