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I can tell your daddy’s going to have his hands full. Just thinking about twin-hood makes my head spin. What could I say to each of you today, your first day here on planet Earth? How can I write to each of you, when none of us knows you yet? But how can I write to “the twins” as though you’re one and the same person?
A conundrum.
I’ve been waiting for y’all to be born for what seems like forever. In terms of my friendship with your father, it is forever. Since the day I met your dad, he’s been waiting for you to arrive. And I’ve been waiting with him.
Since you came into the world together, people are going to have a tendency to treat you as a unit. Check out this ultrasound picture your daddy showed us on November 22:
See how close together you were? Face to face. Head to head. Cheek to cheek.
Notice, too, that the doctors have labeled you “A” and “B.”
That’s not the last time that labeling thing is going to happen. But that’s not a twin thing. It’s a human thing. Everybody wants to label everyone else. ~makes it so much easier to dismiss people. refuse to be dismissed!~ How many people and relationships have run aground on stereotypes, expectations, preconceived notions, and people-pleasing mental gymnastics? Learning to get over yourself, get over what other people think of you, and figure out who you are can go a long way toward a happy life.
And you have two advantages:
- You have each other.
- You will have to learn early to distinguish yourselves as individuals.
So does this mean everything is halved or doubled?
That depends on you. Life is what you make it.
That’s really true, so I’m saying it again:
LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.
If you look for the negative, that’s what you’ll find. The happiest people are the ones who figure this out earliest.
Y’all are going to nail it!
Meanwhile, your dad has two little girls to figure out. Be kind to him.
5 responses so far ↓
1 NYC Educator // Mar 8, 2008 at 9:18 am
Wow. Congratulations!
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2 Kate // Mar 8, 2008 at 11:18 am
Your @baby posts make me sigh with happiness and want to cry at new baby - related stuff
can relate too well and am bummed I had my kids before starting w/ twitter……
Taylor, you’re a great friend, and Ken, your babies are coming into a crazy, crazy, wonderful world. I can’t wait to watch them grow through your updates
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3 ken // Mar 8, 2008 at 8:25 pm
11:00 AM (Sat.) - I leave the hospital, having just introduced my two sons to their new sisters.
11:05 - My youngest son is fast asleep in his car seat.
11:08 - My oldest son (3!) says, “Daddy, I love my sisters”.
11:15 - Needing a moment to let that comment sink in, I pull off the road.
11:17 - Still off the road, I check your blog and I read this post.
11:20 - I realize I can’t write a post on my blog about my children b/c I can not write as well. And I’m okay with that.
11:22 - Back on the road.
11:33 - pull up to my friend’s house for lunch. I park, look in the rear view mirror, stare at my sons, one crooked and fast asleep, the other staring at the new race car toy his sisters gave him.
11:34 - I’m crying. Absolutely sobbing. I think I’m having the best day of my life.
Thanks for being a part of it.
This. Is. The power of networking.
And friendship.
ken’s last blog post..class, thankfully non-existent
4 Kaelie Curbxstomp // Mar 14, 2008 at 12:16 pm
AW, TAYLOR! If you had kids they would be the luckiest kids in the world. You are so SWEET. I think you would be a wonderful mother, if I haven’t told you that before. The thought of children frightens the hell out of me, to be honest.
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5 Taylor // Mar 16, 2008 at 6:03 pm
I don’t ever know how to respond to that. I would be a horrible mother. Then I’d try like hell to do better. Then I’d be horrible again. Who knows?
I’m not sweet. I must be putting out weird vibes.
But I’m humbled that you would say so.
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